Ever been in love?
No. not that kind of love but REAL love?
I'm listening to A Thousand Sweet Kisses from the movie/play Rent. And when you listen to the words, you feel love. REAL love. Real passionate, throw-all-caution-to-the-wind, kinda love. Course they were transexual, homeless people ridden with AIDS but who cares? if it's real love, isn't it worth it?
What is real love anyway? I know in the beginning it's better than heroin. (which i've never tried. Regrettably) So, the butterflies, the sighing, the joyous aniticpation, the vomiting...is there anything better?
Then time sets in and there's none of that. NONE of that. Or is there? Has Hellywood truly tainted me or is Hellywood real? My girlfriend who had been married for 6 years said she still couldn't wait to sack her man. course he was 10 years younger than her but still...What is love?
In the past i've had great passion and great loss. but i was an idiot then. now i'm 40 and i know what i want. but when it comes to the area of love, i'm so lost and confused. Should you wait for exactly what you'd want or should you be greatful for the man you currently have? Which, by the way, is very loving, understanding, kind, will tolerate your 100# dog, funny, and tries really hard to meet the things you tell him you really want? How many people in the world are like that?
I'm afraid I'm meant to be alone, having brief exciting love affairs all over the world...Ummm...did i just answer my own question?
I'm listening to A Thousand Sweet Kisses from the movie/play Rent. And when you listen to the words, you feel love. REAL love. Real passionate, throw-all-caution-to-the-wind, kinda love. Course they were transexual, homeless people ridden with AIDS but who cares? if it's real love, isn't it worth it?
What is real love anyway? I know in the beginning it's better than heroin. (which i've never tried. Regrettably) So, the butterflies, the sighing, the joyous aniticpation, the vomiting...is there anything better?
Then time sets in and there's none of that. NONE of that. Or is there? Has Hellywood truly tainted me or is Hellywood real? My girlfriend who had been married for 6 years said she still couldn't wait to sack her man. course he was 10 years younger than her but still...What is love?
In the past i've had great passion and great loss. but i was an idiot then. now i'm 40 and i know what i want. but when it comes to the area of love, i'm so lost and confused. Should you wait for exactly what you'd want or should you be greatful for the man you currently have? Which, by the way, is very loving, understanding, kind, will tolerate your 100# dog, funny, and tries really hard to meet the things you tell him you really want? How many people in the world are like that?
I'm afraid I'm meant to be alone, having brief exciting love affairs all over the world...Ummm...did i just answer my own question?
posted by Tanya Kristine at 9:40 PM
12 Comments:
I think you just know real love when you experience it. New love is fun & passionate, but there's something nice about old-married-couple-type love, too.
I watched this really incredible documentary about the 3 stages of love. I can't remember what it was called but you can find a decent written summary of the 3 stages here: http://science.howstuffworks.com/love1.htm (make sure you keep clicking next so you read the whole thing).
It explains the hormones our body produces (or doesn't produce) during each stage. In the documentary, they talk about how the first stage (the crazy butterflies and heroin euphoria) can't last because our bodies couldn't take it and would eventually die (similar to the way heroin addicts would die). So, yes, all that does change.
Speaking of songs: "You can't always get what you want but if you try sometimes you just might fine you get what you need."
the problem with love is that it is an emotion. there is no rhyme or reason, there is no logic. not to say you can't apply logic to ending "a love".
it isn't like buying a house where you need 3 BR, 2 bath, and a garage. if the house you are looking at doesn't have that you move along.
i was going to delete this post becuase it seemed stupid but i'm glad i didn't.. i like what you've said...and i thank you. really it's a complicated situation in my life and i think i'm being immature and fantasy-like about it...these were grounding words...
Well, according to Crosby, Stills, Nash & Young (and possibly about a dozen other musicians who have come and gone but the name of the group would be even longer than it already is),
"If you can't be with the one you love, honey, love the one you're with."
The one you can't be with is probably an imaginary person who doesn't exist.
When you're young, lust is definely involved! Middle-age is more about affection & compatability. Old age is more about comfort and mutual dependence. The word love is too short to cover all the catagories it is used in!
Wait... and a soul mate will rear its pointy wee head...
Never settle...
Do not marry someone you can grow old with...
Marry someone you can not live without!
A truly good soul is hard to find. Eventually, as we grow older, a sexual spark is less important as we realize that true intimacy is defined not by sex, but by truly knowing the person that we're with...especially when we know that the person we are with, let's us be who we truly are and loves us all the more for it.
I guess it all depends what your definition of "real love" is...that sounds like real love to me..someone who accepts me for who I am, with toothpaste on my zits and hairy legs, and all....sounds like you got a good one.
now i'm more confused than ever...myabe i'll just get another dog.
I think Santa brought us together cuz I'm destined for what your destiny is too. Let's promise to take care of eachother when we're old and gray. :)
The moment you figure that one out ... write a book ... and then you will be a VERY rich woman having brief exciting love affairs all over the world.
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