Tuesday, October 15, 2024
Monday, September 16, 2024
I. Am. On. Fire.
Friday, August 30, 2024
Truth be told...
Wednesday, August 28, 2024
Love my anonymity
I used to love posting on Twitter for the anonymity of it all because no one EVER commented on my posts but a.) i forgot my password and b.) i hate elon musk. i literally have NO ONE to talk to when i'm having serious issues, like right now. But I know I've made my own bed. I cut people out of my life, left and right and the few that i have left, are the ones I help.
So now i'm on the verge of my 2nd nervous breakdown; my skin is erupting like Vesuvius and that means my whole system is out of whack. Physically and mentally. It started with having to put my pellet stove back together. The last piece...the LAST piece i knew would be the easiest and final part, was, in fact, complicated. And that's when the avalanche started. i have a lead-paint filled house with a legal binder on it, which means no renty, no remodely, no fucking nothing. I was going to a restaurant today to apply for a job because i'm ready to quit the job i have because I HATE FUCKING WORKING! Not so much "hate" as I just can't fucking do it anymore. That's why i retired from an unbelievable job at 50; fully medically vested, yes (i'm not stupid) but my salary went from masters degree high to high school drop out low. was it worth it? can't say 'yes' can't say 'no'. I was dying psychologically as i had been sloooowly for over 30 years. Millennials today? So lackadaisical; they don't give a shit about whatever job they got. That would've been me had i been born in 2000. but i dutifully followed the sheep protocol. Get a job, work 5 days a week with 2 measly days off, leave your dogs and all your chores and any hopes and dreams behind cuz you gotta work for a fucking living!
I can't even believe i'm still alive, really. I would most likely be gone if it wasn't for my dogs. I could never leave them. even for the one prick ass I currently have. But for certain not the one angel i also have. what would become of the rest of their lives? I can't risk that.
I guess it's the ONE (and only) thing I really do love about myself ...the ability to love all my dogs as if they were the most perfectest of all beings. In return, they have provided me with the only unconditional love I could've ever imagined.
Everything else? You can fuck off.
Sunday, July 21, 2024
life is hard
Most of the time, i hate myself. and then SOMETIMES i amaze myself. It's a conundrum I've lived with for 50 years. but one thing IS for sure, I took the wrong path in life.
Monday, June 24, 2024
Whittling Down
I have too much. Not as much as I've had in the past; but, I don't like the feeling of not being able to pick up and leave BECAUSE I have too much.
Today I am inventorying all my food. I buy food as though I'm preparing for an apocalypse. I learned this from my mom. My sister makes fun of me; but, I notice my brother Eric does the same thing. So i have created an excel spreadsheet, and I will not allow myself to purchase MORE food until this stuff is gone. Half of it is expired anyway! I also have too many disorders.
Sunday, March 22, 2015
R.I.P. Doggy Bloggy
My alarm was beeping to get my clothes out of the drier...while i was trying to find out what the invite meant. Easily irritated by repetitive sound, i had to shut it off and get the clothes out anyway. I was shaky and oddly weirded out. No. Really? No. It doesn't make sense. It makes no sense..
And then i found it...the announcement of your passing.
What's weird is i've been thinking a lot about you lately. Kinda missing you...your random comments; they could be lovely, they could be snarky. but you never offended me. never. Even borderline a'hole, you just never offended me. Must be the new englander in both of us...
and now you'll never snarkily, lovely comment me again.
R.I.P. DB...xoxo
Wednesday, November 13, 2013
Yeah
At 47, I feel kinda done. I've had a lot of fun, raised and loved two AWESOME dogs, realized I'll never pursue my dreams, weeded out my friends, established a permanent family member or two, bought a house, paid my own bills, made pretty good money with only a GED, had lots of boy-love, traveled, met a lot of my own not-necessary needs...so...yeah...i'm kinda done.
What's weird is at 47 I really shouldn't be done.
A friend of mine always said he believes we're all born at our 'eternal' age. His was 47 so he's still in his zone. mine was 12. or possibly 8. so I am way past my expiration date. What do I want to do now? I have no idea. Nor do I really care.
At this point of my apathetic, misanthropic life I see a lot of angry, judgmental, passive-aggressive, selfish, self-centered, greedy people. I see tons of dishonesty, self-preservers, finger pointers and justifiers. Cheaters, liars, deny'rs & desperation. Disposing, transposing and just posing...predictable sitcoms, movies and plays. Complaints between political parties about who's right; not about democracy or humane equality. I know I sound pessimistic; but, am I really?
I, by far, am not perfect...but why am I one of the few people to say that? I have no problem being judged and allowed to mull over that judgment to see if it's true, necessary and important. Most people can't STAND to have anyone say "hey...you know what? that's just not cool" because they go in to instant defense mode and immediately put up their pointer finger to ENSURE you understand that YOURE the problem; not them!
THIS IS OUR SOCIETY!
*warning* horrible segue*
That's why travel is so important. it opens your eyes to other cultures; I've seen a bit personally in my life but one, from a movie, stands out. "Beyond Belief". I saw how those people lived and 52,877,599 words short, I became grateful that I had a flushing toilet. That I had 1,100 square feet of home all to myself. That I could make my own money, make my own decisions, live my own life..
but STILL at 47...I think I've done it all. I've loved, I've laughed, I've traveled, I've fought for animal rights, I've done illegal things, I've held a job, i've donated more than most, I've snowboarded, ive snorted, I've owned a new car, I've seen the red sox win world series - multiple times, I've survived bad relationships, bad movies, bad milk and bad fashions...I think...I think I've done waaaaaaaaaay more than 98% of the population.
I'm pretty good.
If a miracle comes my way...well...I might make it to 50.
Saturday, February 02, 2013
yaya, skinnymaa...
now that i'm done i can say "i'm done".
I started the diet in December and i was supposed to be done completely by my birthday but of course, true to my nature, i had cheats in between. BUT, i shan't worry over that and revel in the fact that i've lost 19 pounds and i can see my feet in the shower.
NOW, the hard part begins. working out and not going back to old habits. May the force be with me...
Tuesday, December 18, 2012
Kody Therapy
almost 2 months ago, Kody collapsed on his daily walk. I watched his back feet start to curl under, his legs buckle and his back end go down. I am not good in bad situations so i just stared at him, not knowing what to do. I walked in front of him thinking that'll make him get up; nothing. i walked back to him to love him then walked away again. he tried...bless his beautiful, obnoxious, funny, charming, perfect heart, he tried; nothing.
Then i started to cry. How am i going to get a hundred pound dog back to my house? i started to knock on the neighbors doors and either no one was home or they looked out the window and thought it best not to answer the door to the crazy crying pink-haired woman in pajamas. (hahah...i just got a serious image of that) My favorite neighbor was out of town and he would have stopped part of his world to help me because he is so great. He has two hunting spaniels - one is on his way out and the other is a year old so we have shared many, many stories about our dogs together.
finally, the other crazy lady in the neighborhood came out and said she would wait with him while i ran to get my car. i think she scared Kody becuase he struggled and struggled and struggled til he was able to rise. We made it home but the next day i made Kody's first acupuncture appointment.
Since then, he's had 4. Last week i took kody to the vet for a leaky man unit and got on the subject of Kody's acupuncture and she was surprised the acu did not take xrays. So. I ordered xrays on the spot. When Dr. True looked at them she said "his hips are remarkable! they look like hips of a 6 year old!" and his spine and neck weren't much worse. Goddamn dog makes everything hard. even his leaky peepee showed no signs of an easy-curable urinary tract infection!
But now i'm kinda pissed. He's had 3 acu treatments and she's been treating the wrong area! at a pretty penny too..i don't mind spending the money as long as it's money well spent.
yesterday he had his 4th acu appt and the dr. that's been seeing him is gone. Dr. Beebe is the one who's going to be seeing kody and i half undermybreath mention that i'm upset we've been treating the wrong area and, of course, she defended the dr. (very nicely, of course) I did tell her, kody did do really well after the first treatment but then...i noticed no difference after the next two.
After 10 minutes of chatting, she made Kody get up so she could watch him walk and within 20 seconds she rattled off a myriad of issues she saw in him and verified those issues when she looked at the xrays. Then, no longer under my breath, because now i AM pissed, i said "you look at him for SECONDS, identify all his problems and i've been coming here for over a month with the last lady and it looks like she had no idea what she was doing... i am pissed!"
so we picked out the treatment Kody should be on (read: time for a 2nd job) and she finished our visit out with acupuncture to deal directly with his painful spine & neck & elbows & floating knee & leaky peepee & surprise (everytime) bowels & didn't charge me a dime.
Kody starts his treatment Friday and she squeezed him in becuase she won't be able to see him the following christmas week so i'm going to bring her lunch from the co-op (she's a hippy right? eastern medicine? yeah...i think i'm right) and my credit card....I'm a gonna need it....
(good sign that the model on the research i was doing is Kody's twin!)
Wednesday, December 05, 2012
work
Very validating.
Jamie. You can keep your hundred bucks.
Tuesday, November 27, 2012
ahh...doesn't life just keep going on?
You know what I think the answer is? It’s love. It’s to love, to be loved, to be IN love, to fight for love because of that love. If ever I thought there was a law of nature so true and so exact, it would be love. Love is so powerful, so palatable; it’s undeniable.
Wednesday, September 26, 2012
Hyper Bowl
and this is the exact url of that site i found...years ago:
http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2010/11/dogs-dont-understand-basic-concepts.html
I ran over to Christina (our student at work) to share; I knew she'd love it because we have a similar style of humor. Oh that, and she really is an amazing person; she's funny, smart, articulate, clever, intelligent and veeery slightly caustic (i like to think I imparted a bit of that to her).
"You have to check out this site; it's hilarious.....'it's (and i'll repeat phonetically) hyper-bowl-andahalfdotblogspotdotcom'. she immediately stopped typing and whipped her head towards me and said "what did you say??" My brain flooded with thoughts, did i just call her a raving stupid douchebag when i thought i gave her a blog address? did i insult her mother? her father? the dog? Whatever it was, I knew i had said something really lame; but, and this is rare, i'm not ALWAYS super-smart so I repeated myself. This time with not as much gusto..."hy per..uh..bowl and a ha....."
"It's hyPUUUURRboLEE...." Right. It's so rare that I make grammatical errors in my speech since English was my only straight A class; but, when i do, i remember them like a traumatic childhood experience...hypuuuuurrrbolee. I've heard of that before too; just never seen it in print. and to this day i don't even know what it means; but if i ever need to say it, i now say it with pride.
file hyperbole along with:
segue
colonel
mural (NOT muriel)
awry
draught
Thursday, September 06, 2012
Well now...
Sunday, September 02, 2012
Rut Slut
My brothers came over last night and i made them a fabulous dinner. we were supposed to go to a play in Fair Oaks but i was feeling tired and shitty so we watched The 20 Most Shocking Videos on TruTV. They hate that shit but, funnily enough, they stayed for 3 episodes of it. White trashy addicting.
Kody's good. I took him to work with me yesterday while i moved my cube from Hell to Heaven. I thought he'd be happier being there with me but he was afriad to be alone on the big dark floor and he was panting pretty badly. I finally got him to sit down after I could sit down in my new cube an unpack. and, the good boy that he is, he pooped RIGHT where i'd see it so i could clean it up and none would be the wiser.
Gotta get my old car smogged today. costed me $500 to get rid of that check engine light to GET it smogged so i'm writing all that off. I will!
Someone at work about shit his pants when i told him i was 46. he stared at me the entire time i was in his cube, making comments every once in awhile how he doesn't believe me. it has to be the pink hair...makes me look a decade younger and two decades hotter.
Saturday, August 18, 2012
I funny...
On to the joke. I got this idea from Tim Lacy who used to work with all women and made the brilliant decision to track their cycles so he could understand why some of them were bitchy at certain times. Of course, I'm not just bitchy then, i'm bitchy for lots of reasons so Nick and I discussed the fact that I needed more colors.
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This is August...I won't be hungover because i'm on a special diet, which makes me cranky.
Hahahahah...i love me sometimes. I just wish his calendar was alway color-free but then again, that wouldn't be me....
Thursday, August 16, 2012
ok...
and i just barfed drinking iced tea because you can't drink iced tea on an empty stomach. changed my mind...it's gonna be a looooooooooooooooooong 26 days.
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
HCG - LAST TIME!
So driving to Tallac last Wednesday, it just popped in my head: HCG. Of course I’ve thought about it a few times but p’shawed it because that’s a hard diet and I’ve done it FIVE TIMES before. But for some reason, Wednesday it clicked and clicked good.
The more I thought about it the more I said ‘yes…that will be my motivation.’ So I faxed my blood work over to the clinic the next morning and told her to hurry up and make my appt because I’m fat (not AS fat as I’ve gotten before..GOD…who WAS I?) and she got me in that afternoon. Which was perfect because I got to load Friday and Saturday. Unfortunately, I have been sick so I couldn’t do one last hurrah but I’ve had so many last hurrahs, I wasn’t too bothered by it.
I’m on my 3rd low cal day and I don’t look at this diet the same way I had before. Dreading how much longer I have to go and deeming it near impossible. Now I’m like “Hm…I only have 27 more days to go!” Even when I thought about my delicious, buttery cashews in my cabinet, it was a solid non-fighty ‘no way’…not blowing this round this time because I’m not doing it again.
I’m not even using cream in my coffee…THAT’S how serious I am.
Thursday, August 09, 2012
One last round
So i decided to do another round of hcg. and not the internet kind where i lose weight but it's a weird weight loss but a $450 weight loss. i'm hoping that will motivate me to actually stick to something.
we'll see....so much other stuff going on at work but because of that so much going on, i'm tired.
Saturday, July 28, 2012
weird week
Yesterday Rich, our bartender, texts me that they found Dan dead in his apartment. DAN! I've played pool & darts with him a million times, had some deep drunken converstaions with him over the years, he even bathed my dog while i was in Key West!...he was 51... It's just such a weird feeling...
Today i'm going to rest again since i'm feeling better but tomorrow is massive chore day and farmer;s market day. i better feel good.